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2016, what a fucking year eh? Like every year it started off with a promise to myself to make it the best year of my life and in some ways, I delivered! You can never really plan out the best year of your life because you can’t predict illness and heartache and people being pricks. You also can’t foresee all the good things that happen by coincidence either.
This year was good because despite all the bad things that came with it; I came out the other side a better person. I learned how to handle my shit and to let life’s nasty experiences soften me and make me kinder instead of making me hostile and angry at the world (because that is such an easy trap to fall into.)
Here are the top five things I’ve learnt over the last 12 months…
PERSPECTIVE IS EVERYTHING
Sometimes it doesn’t actually matter to people what the facts of a situation are rather how they felt about it at the time. I find it fascinating how two people can see the same circumstances so differently and how adamant they can be that they were in the right. Instead of reacting to what actually happens, it’s easy to react to how something has made us feel. Life often presents us with a paradox in which both people will be hurt and sometimes we just have to accept that and move on.
IT DOESN’T MATTER HOW HARD YOU WORK, IT JUST MATTERS WHO SEES YOU DOING IT
Keeping your head down and working hard will keep your job secure, so secure in fact that you’ll stay in the same place forever. If you’re paid attention to by your superiors but not working hard, you’re set for failure. You just can’t have one without the other. Success comes from hard work and getting noticed. I’m not saying ‘only work hard when somebody is watching’ but rather, work hard all the time and make sure somebody sees it.
HAPPINESS IS NEAR ENOUGH ENTIRELY DETERMINED BY LIVING IN THE PRESENT
This year I learnt that the only way to be truly happy and free is to just let go. Let go of all the pain inside you and accept that there’s no way of changing things that have already happened. People often fall into the trap of being so angry at things they can’t change that they then end up miserable and hostile towards life. It’s a mistake I’ve made in the past and one I’ll never make again. By focusing less on what’s already happened and worrying less about what’s going to happen, we can truly enjoy NOW.
NEVER TAKE SOMEONE AT FACE VALUE
I’ve learnt this from a friend I’ve made recently who comes across as an entirely different person to people who know him and people who know him. He’s ruthless and sometimes vile and often called a cunt. Gathered, he acts like a bit of a prick sometimes but under the surface he’s actually a soppy little sweetheart. He’s been through some super tough shit in his lifetime and he’s massively struggling with himself and if everybody knew the truth they probably wouldn’t think he’s such a prick when he’s being stubborn about certain things. But what I’ve learnt from this friend is that if somebody is a total nob, they could be battling some tough shit in their life.
THIS TOO SHALL PASS
Sometimes the present sucks. Sometimes you’re in the middle of a sticky situation and perhaps living in the present is likely to make you more miserable. It’s at these times that it is so so so important to remember that everything is temporary. Some situations feel never ending but when you come out the other side you’re so damn appreciative of the fact that it’s all over.
What has 2016 taught you? Please leave a comment below and if you’re a fellow blogger don’t forget to leave the link to your blog!
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