DATING IN 2017 KINDA SUCKS

I’ve been single a few months now and already I am bored of dating. There I said it. I’m fed up.

Technically I’ve been single my whole life because I’ve never actually been serious enough with anybody to settle down and call it quits on the dating scene. I’ve had a couple of serious-ish relationships but I’ve never moved in with someone and started thinking about the prospect of marriage or kids or cute little doggos.

After my last relationship I was convinced that love was hopeless and that nobody could ever really be trusted. I’d like to think that a few months on there is *some* hope. But I’ve been on a string of dead end dates and I am yet to meet anyone who I’d trust with my bank card let alone with my heart.

Dating has changed. Gone are the days of being asked out by a cute guy in a coffee shop or being set up with your friend’s old pal from high school. Gone are the days of real blind dates who haven’t already stalked you on social media, read your blog and reckon they know you. Gone are the days of true romance.

What happened to the world of dating? Tinder happened. Fucking Tinder.

I have such a love hate relationship with that app. On one hand, it’s now easier than ever to actually get a date. But on the other; before you even go on that date your mate has already stalked his Facebook and shown you his ridiculous model ex-girlfriend or you’ve followed them on Instagram and seen them in your recent activity commenting on 15+ other girls photos. Playas gone play.

If you do decide to go on a date with someone from Tinder there’s about a 5% chance you’ll actually like them and fancy them enough to want a second date (it seems to be massively lacking in high quality men) Even then, one of you is bound to be keeping your options open because that’s just the world we live in now. When our parents’ generation were young they would meet and then court and then settle down and that would be it.

Nowadays, thanks to the internet, we’re bombarded with options and we’ll always have that itching feeling that there’s something better out there. Even I’ve been known to mindlessly check out who’s on Tinder when I’m already talking to somebody I like. We live in a world where there are hundreds upon hundreds of singles right at our finger tips. A world where fuckboys are lurking round every corner. Sadly, this fuckboy mentality seems to be kinda the norm now.

It’s not just me who feels this way though right?

RIGHT?

 


[edit: I wrote this a couple of weeks ago now and last weekend I had a real decent date and I feel like I kinda tempted fate with this post. Who knows, but I do have a second date with him this weekend so we’ll see. I’ve not even been using Tinder since we met *yes this one is actually really freakin’ cool* but after all there’s still a small possibility he could turn out to be another silly little fuckboy!]


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10 Comments

  1. I’m glad you’ve met someone that may be able to change your mind. I guess Tinder is only as good as the people using it. I know some people that have met a long term partner through it, but equally I hear the horror stories! Tinder wasn’t a thing when I was single ( for better or worse, I met my husband when I was 18 and now 31 so a lot has changed with dating in that time!!). I’m always really interested to use it for friends! I do think it makes everything very superficial and takes something away. I’m not sure if I would have swiped right on my actual husband with only a few profile details to go on! It’s definitely a focus on quantity over quality and I’m sure that’s not right. Enjoy making some connections! X

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  2. I am a complete Tinder alien, having been In a relationship since it’s onset – so don’t have any expiriance with this but your EDIT made me crack a huge grin.
    xx

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  3. Deffo agree with this! Most of the guys on tinder and just after ‘one thing’ or yeah it just never really works out, I wish dating was still like the old days when people would approach you in a coffee shop etc. (or maybe that’s just in the movies). I guess when we stop looking someone good will hopefully come along! xx
    G

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  4. So pleased to hear that you’ve had a good date since writing this! Dating has changed, but it’s only keeping up with the times, I guess. I actually met my long-term boyfriend through Tinder! It’s not all bad. Who knows, maybe yours will turn out that way too? (Touch wood!)
    Hannah
    hannahinternational.co.uk

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  5. I feel like a proper old married woman when I read posts like this because I have never used tinder 😂 I’ll have to tell you the story of how I metTom one day though (sort of throug an app on Facebook) haha but you know at work there’s always some little old lady that tells me how they met at a dance and I think man I wish today was still like that

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