In this post I talk about the choice to be happy but I understand that those suffering with their mental health can’t just choose to pick themselves up and ‘get over it’. I’ve been there and it’s just not something you have any control over. But on your good days, take a leap of good faith and try to let go.
I always used to feel like I was at the mercy of my emotions. I felt controlled by the way I felt about things that I had no control over.
I also felt unlucky. I felt like bad things happened to me and there was absolutely nothing I could do about it. Which is true, I had no control over the bad things that happened in my life but what I could choose was how I acted in response to these things and the number of negative possibilities I brought into my life.
But now, I have made a decision. I have decided to be happy.
We cannot control the external forces in our life but what we can choose is how we perceive them.
We can let life make us angry and resilient and stubborn or we can take each day as it comes, we can stop ourselves from judging all future situations like past ones, we can stop making assumptions and we can let life soften us instead.
Life throwing shit at you can really turn you into a horrible person. It can make you feel like the world is out to get you. It can force you into putting your barriers up and trying to wear a hard exterior so nobody can know you enough to hurt you. But what’s the purpose of that?
Why live your life being fearful and angry and hurt by things you can just let go of?
Whenever you find yourself feeling negative, ask yourself what purpose the feeling has. Ask if feeling worried, frustrated, angry or upset about something is going to make a single bit of difference to the situation itself. If it doesn’t then do your absolute best to let go.
I’m not saying it’s easy by any means. Letting go can be one of the most difficult struggles however we often actively hold on to feelings of regret and anger that serve no purpose in our lives.
Sometimes it’s easier to believe that the worst outcome is the most likely outcome and that can act as a barrier so we feel happy when the outcome is anything else. I used to stop myself from trying to avoid failure and this is similar but it holds you back so so much. I am now a firm believer in positive thinking so I weigh up all outcomes and prepare for both the best and the worst. I also try my hardest knowing that if I fail that at least I tried.
So if you need a boost in morale right now or if you’re feeling a little down, try making the choice to be happy by taking these simple steps…
– Show gratitude for the positives in your life
– Eliminate the negatives, or the possibilities for
– Prepare for the worst
– React in a way that is purposeful and intentional
– Let go of the past
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